Everyone has pleasant thoughts or emotional experiences, but there are also some thoughts and emotions that can only make people frustrated or nervous.
When we are nervous, our minds often seem to think about the millions of things at the same time, and the last thing we want is a mess. Therefore, it is important to be able to take a little time to calm down, to be able to see a thing from a holistic perspective, and then learn to put it down.
Here are a few ways to distract your thoughts. We’ll first explore why people are entangled in certain thoughts or emotions, and then give you advice on how to solve the problem.
Focus on your current affairs
Thinking sometimes wanders away from the “backstage” of the brain, so focus it immediately on one of your current thoughts, and realize that there is often more than one thought in the brain – and some of the thinking in the back of the brain is less noticed by the brain. You can say to yourself, “That’s how I feel right now.””Or “I’m thinking about it now” so that your mind will focus and you don’t continue to wander away. But usually when you really focus on a thought, you can quickly put it down because the brain thoroughly scanned it.
When you appreciate a picture of peace, your brain is easy to calm down and let go of some thoughts, but don’t think hard about what you’re going to forget.
Look at your thoughts and understand how your thoughts and feelings control you
When we look at some of our thoughts, it’s not hard to see that a thought actually has two sides – themes and processes. The process is the activity in which you think or experience emotion.
Sometimes the brain’s thought process has no subject, and the brain is in an irrational and wild state of consciousness. This is because when a person feels physical pain, the brain feels afraid. It activates protective mechanisms, and uses an idea to appease or distract itself. If you look at your brain in a way that looks at the machine, you’ll find that the brain is simply just casually grasping an idea as the subject of one’s own thinking.
The idea of having a theme is often more obvious, and you may feel angry, worried, or feel other things about what you think, which is often repeated many times and is tightly centered around a topic.
Being kind to yourself, gives your brain a positive hint that it’s good to let go of unpleasant thoughts.
Realize that self-blame is useless
If you blame yourself for the subject matter of certain thoughts, the problem becomes even more difficult. For example, you may be wondering how much you hate someone and immediately feel guilty or angry about your thoughts.
In fact, letting go doesn’t mean you’re going to distinguish right from wrong, it’s not about you tell right from wrong. Don’t feel that frustration, worry, hatred and anger are wrong, and don’t feel that these emotions shouldn’t exist and shouldn’t affect us, otherwise, once you start blaming yourself, more problems will arise. There will be a root in your mind. The deep cause-and-effect process is built and will become more difficult to control in the future.
Accepting your thoughts and emotions is the first step in letting them go, and self-blame is often the beginning of more problems. Self-blame makes your brain impose a series of unrelated thoughts and emotions on you. Keep in mind that all the tools I use to manipulate come from the brain, so the brain manipulates the body much more than we think. Some parts of the brain sometimes sink. Obsessed with things that cannot be self-indulgent, and thus indulge our desires, so that we are enslaved by desires. In general, the driving force behind all our thoughts and emotions is desire.
Think about how you’re related to these thoughts and emotions
The mind runs by habit, so even when you think you’ve forgotten a thought or emotion, they still bounce back. It’s time to make up your mind to let go again. Not only to stop this series of thoughts from resurgent, but also to prevent them from entangled in newly formed thoughts or emotions.
The difficulty lies in the central problem: we must radically alienated the brain from thought themes and processes about thoughts or emotions. If we realize that this thought theme and process is not good for our lives today, then the problem can be solved. However, we do not want to ignore the themes and processes of some thoughts and don’t think they’re going to increase our stress because we want to figure out what this thought means (that is, when we have anger, anxiety, and so on, we want to figure out who we’re thinking about, where we have it, what it means, and why we think about it).
This desire to “find out” is even stronger than the desire to put it down, in which case it becomes more difficult to put it down when it is overcome by another stronger desire. If you’re just tangled up because you want to tangle, you’ll be in a paradoxical situation if you don’t pay attention (on the one hand, you want to put it down. On the other hand, you want to figure out what your thoughts and emotions mean). At this point, although the brain is suspected of getting out of control, in fact, your brain is still in control of the mind, so you can use this self-struggle to distract yourself. In the face of the powerful thinking of “I want to figure it out”, you have to say to yourself, “Okay, it’s time to put it down” all the way to your heart. The desire to put down is stronger than the desire to continue to tangle.
Another problem is that emotions are often seen as part of the self. We are usually reluctant to admit that it is we who sometimes make us feel pain and sorrow. It has long been taught that “all” emotions are precious and part of who we are. But what we don’t know is that there are emotions that don’t cause tension, but.There are also emotions that cause tension. The explanation is clear: you need to spend enough time looking at your thoughts and emotions without any self-blame, and then decide whether they are worth cherishing or better to put them down.
Thoughts distraction in practice
If you have a thought around a topic that you want to forget about, try these experiments:
1. Try not to think of a polar bear, or more surprisingly, a coffee-drinking purple flamingo with dots. The experiment is very old, but it can effectively demonstrate the power of thinking. And as a result of this experiment, the harder you try not to think about polar bears, the more you struggle with polar bears’ thoughts. As with the sign of an unpleasant thought, you need to tighten your nerves when you do so, and the subject you want to forget is the subject of your best efforts. So the harder you try to avoid polar bears, the more distinctive the polar bear’s image becomes.
2. It’s like you want to put down a pen.
- To put down this pen, you must first take it.
- You keep thinking about putting down the pen, you have to hold it all the time.
- Logically, if you still hold the pen, but keep the thought of “put it down” in your heart, you can’t put it down.
- The more you focus on “I’m going to put this pen down,” the more you can’t put it down.
Don’t deliberately struggle with certain thoughts and emotions so you can let go
The above-mentioned truth also applies in thinking. The more desperate we try to put aside a thought, the more we will focus on that thought and the more tension and stress we will put on the brain. The more we respond to the protective effects of an attack, and the more we can’t let go. To break out of this vicious circle, learn to relax. Release your hand, the pen will fall off on its own; relax your brain, and unpleasant thoughts will disappear automatically. If you’ve tried desperately to forget one thing before, this reaction to self-struggle and self-protection may already be ingrained in your brain, and you’ll need a little time to break the inertia.
That’s what the brain is all about. When we are entangled in thoughts and emotions and desperately trying to destroy them, they are relying on no place to go and firmly stay in our minds. Only when we relax can we really distract our thoughts and put it down.
Techniques to deal with thoughts and emotions
There are many ways to deal with recurring annoying thoughts and emotions, and here are some examples for you to refer to:
1. Is there a book, a movie, or something you’ve seen or done so many times that you’re tired of it? If so, think of those ideas as movies until you get tired of them, so you can easily put them down.
2. If you can’t put it down, manipulate it. Play it back in your head, twist it, change it, and eventually you’ll find that you’re the one who’s leading it. Although a softer idea replaces an unpleasant one is only a temporary one, it is also effective. Forget when you twist an idea to an acceptable level.It’s easier.
3. Clear measurement standard. There are two benefits to a clear measurement: one is that you can detect it quickly when something unpleasant happens, and the other is that it can provide you with a way out of negative thoughts and emotions.
4. If you’re entangled in an emotion, ask yourself, “Is it good for me,” or “Is it helping me,” or “I don’t want that emotion.” If you find this emotion to be of little benefit, then realizing it can support you overcome it, get rid of it, and regain your self-confidence.
5. Practice meditation. Meditation can help you focus on your current affairs, which can help you move away from the controls that haunt your thoughts and emotions.
6. Imagination. If you’re a busy person, imagination will work for you. Here’s an example:
Imagine a beautiful, empty, flower-filled wilderness or other pleasant scenery. Explore inside and enjoy the blue sky and fresh air. Then imagine a city uprooted in this wilderness, with tall buildings, streets and cars everywhere. Now, let the city disappear and return to the empty, beautiful wilderness.
The picture you imagine has the following meaning: the field represents our brain. It turned out to be empty as well as calm. But rising cities are like the thoughts and emotions we force to add. With the passage of time, we slowly adapted to the city’s noisy existence and forget the once foot of the wilderness, but that piece of calm never left. And when you put those thoughts and emotions down, the high-rise buildings on the field disappeared, and the calm and serene wilderness came back. You know, unpleasant thoughts and emotions are just tall buildings built on calm fields, and you can destroy them at any time and embrace the land of happiness and serenity. Accept your negative thoughts and feelings and let go.
How can i calm my mind
To calm the impetuous mind, you don’t necessarily need to do long-term body-building events to cultivate, master some tips about emotions, soothing impetuousness is a very simple thing.
1. Comfort Object
Winnicott has proposed a concept called “transitional object”, which represents the transitional object, often a blanket, an old dress, a soft doll, or some repetitive action, the real transition object refers to something between the mother and the external object.
The transitional object exists in the transition phase of the baby from the perception that he or she is the one with the mother with the perception that he or she is separated from the mother.
Transition object is the mother’s substitute, often with the mother’s soft, touching, intimate characteristics, can help the baby to fight anxiety, loneliness, is the carrier of the baby’s sense of security and dependence.
So when we feel impetuous, we can choose to stroke some soft dolls, which can help us experience the feeling of peace of mind, soothe our impetuous mood, as if back to the mother’s warm embrace.
In addition, when touching soft things, our body secretes endocrine and oxytocin. These hormones are hormones that make people feel calm and content.
We also secrete these hormones when we embrace the people we like.
If you want to fight impetuousness, you have to grasp the characteristics of what we like about softness.
People’s mood will be affected by the weather. On cloudy days, many people will feel unhappy. On sunny days, many people will feel happy. This phenomenon may be related to the amount of sunlight caused by the body secreted pineal hormones difference.
In addition to the short weather will affect people’s mood, there are also continuous seasons can also affect people’s mood, psychologically known as seasonal psychological disorders.
In late spring and early summer people are more likely to develop mania until the end of autumn, and in late autumn and early winter people are more likely to develop depressive emotions until the end of late spring and early summer.
Seasonal psychological disorders are often related to physiological rhythm disorders and endocrine disorders that occur with seasonal changes.
This can be artificially manipulated, for example, in a cold winter, order a glass of iced drink will make our hearts feel cold.
When we feel impetuous, we can try to drink some cold drinks, or take a bath to change our physiological feelings, and then change the impetuous psychological feelings.
3. Sort things out
Impulsiveness is divided into two situations. The first is impetuous mood, which relates to the cycle of emotions; the second is impetuous because of specific things. These two kinds of impetuousness cannot be solved in the same way.
When we feel impetuous because of something specific, such as debt, it makes a person impetuous, we cannot escape the problem, but to sort things out, especially in an interesting way.
Debt only gives one person a part of the trouble, and the other trouble comes from the fact that he doesn’t know as much about it as he thought he did, and he doesn’t know the details of his specific debt.
Therefore, the person can try to draw the date of the debt, the amount, the repayment plan, as well as his every consumption situation.
In doing so, he would be very interested in his bills and would have a sense of identity with them.
This method can also be used for other specific things, and the specific things can be sorted out in an interesting and detailed manner.
4. Immersive experience
Impetuousness is a mentality that doesn’t want to know things, it’s like a white bear in the white bear effect, it’s a compulsive concept.
When we deal with impetuousness, we can choose between two methods.
The first is to do some mechanical action.
For example, staring at your own clothes, and then constantly meditated on the heart of this dress is good-looking, or keep playing with their fingers, so that we can concentrate, naturally indulge in things, also remove impetuousness.
The second way is not to do mechanical action, but to do activities that will allow us to experience an immersive, such as playing games, listening to music, etc.
Try choosing songs with light rhythms, or you can choose songs with soothing rhythms that often change people’s moods, whether high or low, to help calm your mind.
Practice makes perfect. If you practice more, the more negative thoughts and emotions will be distracted. Remember, inner thoughts and emotions are like the weather, they come and go, like clouds and snow, and you are the day.
It’s helpful to know your brain, you just have to relax and take a little time to take a good look at your thinking activities and how they react to the outside world. You want a scientist who observes new species to be as meticulous about the brain’s habits.
If you need, you should talk to a psychological consultant and don’t worry about looking for help because it is good for your mental health.
It’s easy to indulge in pleasant emotions, but these emotions come and go, and we can’t expect to have them forever, but you can use them as a measure to identify your thoughts and emotions and calm yourself down.