Successful people can always see problems can be resolved and overcome while many people see obstacles cannot be overcome. They are so confident because they know how to deal with the negative voices that stop them from moving forward.
Martin Seligman from the University of Pennsylvania has found that the key factor in a person’s success or failure is whether the person sees his or her failure as uncontrollable or a mistake that can be improved. Pessimists tend to think that failure is due to personal defects, which also makes them more likely to feel depressed, while optimistic people see failure as a learning opportunity, and believe they can do better next time.
The intelligence website TalentSmart, which analyzed data on more than a million subjects and found the same phenomenon: top performers know how to manage their emotions in times of stress so that they remain cool, calm, and able to do what needs to be done.
You must be careful of the following seven things that keep you from staying high EQ at all times in your daily life.
7 Challenges to be overcome to success
Successful people don’t let age determine who they are and what they can do, but people love to tell you what to do and what not to do because of your age. One of my elder research professors has always thought that we are too young and inexperienced to be qualified as consultants. ‘To be an independent and successful consultant, we have to work in a big company for a while’ says the professor. Again. I was the youngest student in my class at the time, and as I listened to the professor, I took on different consulting jobs.
Successful people don’t make these stereotypes about age. Follow your will and enthusiasm, don’t care about your physical age.
2. Negative emotions
Life doesn’t go forever, but instead of staying where you want to complain, the winner will focus on finding the best solution to the problem, and move on.
If the negative emotions in life are coming from others, you should keep your distance from them. These complainers are like addicts. For example, when they’re smoking near you, do you want to sit next to him and smoke secondhand cigarettes all afternoon?
Here is also a good way to stop others from complaining: ask them what they want to do with what they’re complaining about. When they come across this problem, these people are either quiet about it or they are directing the topic to the problem.
3. Harmful people
The big business that has been successful has been founded by powerful partners, like Apple was founded by Steve Jobs, Steve Wozniak, and Ronald Wayne in April 1976. Google was founded in September 1998 by Larry Page and Sergey Brin. Microsoft was founded by Bill Gates and Paul Allen on April 4, 1975. (Source: Wikipedia)
Thus, you can only reach the pinnacle of success if you are surrounded by the right people. A good person can make you realize your potential, and a bad person can make you sink. If you’re not happy with the status quo, look around and the people around you are the root of your problem.
4. Other people’s ideas
Caring about other people’s ideas is a waste of time and energy for the successful people. If they’re satisfied with what they’ve done, they don’t care what others think.
If your achievements and pleasures are compared to others, you are not the master of your own destiny. Even if you can’t be unresponsive to other people’s opinions, you don’t need to tie all your achievements to those opinions. No matter what others do or think, your sense of self and certainity should be given by yourself. When others judge you, the only certainty is that you will always far from being as good/bad as they say.
Fear is an imagination, and successful people are familiar with this feeling because they enjoy the pleasure of overcoming it.
So don’t stop because of fear. The ultimate reason people don’t do a thing is to worry that it will kill him, but death is not the worst thing. The worst is that you let your inner death be left to live.
6. Past and future
The concepts of the past and the future, like fear, come only from imagination. The past cannot be changed because of guilt and the future cannot be changed because of anxiety. So the successful will only focus on the present, and if not, one cannot reach his or her full potential and fully accept the reality at hand.
There are two things you can do to focus on the present. One is to accept the past and reconcile it with the past, and the other is to accept the uncertainty of the future and not to over-expect.
7. The real world
When you turn on the TV, you will only see endless wars, terrorist attacks, economic crises, environmental pollution, etc. You can clearly feel the world sinking.
But successful people don’t get caught up in things that individuals can’t control. They just focus on their attention and ability, and focus on doing what makes themselves and the world a little better every day, because that’s the only way to make the world better.
How to maintain a positive mindset
A positive attitude brings inner peace, promotes friendship, and makes people healthy, happy and satisfied. It also helps to make things smoother and fill life with sunshine and hope.
Positive psychology is contagious. People around you will be affected by your emotions. Thinking about happiness, health, and success can make those around you like you and be willing to help you, because they can also feel happy.
In order to benefit from positive thinking, you need to develop a habit of thinking positively about your life, expect success regardless of what you do, and take action to ensure success.
A positive mind isn’t just about simply repeating optimistic words, or telling yourself that everything is good, it needs to always take hold of your mind. Occasional positive thinking is not enough, it’s easy to let fear and lack of confidence into your mind. Hard work and inner work are required.
Willing to make some inner change?
Willing to change the way you think?
Willing to form a powerful positive force to influence yourself and those around you?
Tips to help you build a positive mindset
- Use only positive words when thinking and talking. Such as “I can”, “It’s perfectly possible”, “I’m sure I’ll succeed” and so on.
- Let happiness, strength, and success feel into your subconscious mind.
- Try to ignore negative thoughts and replace them with positive ones.
- Use words that give people strength, happiness, and success in your conversations.
- Before you start any plan or action, first clearly imagine the results of success in your mind. If you can be focused and confident, you can have unexpected results.
- Read at least one page of inspirational books a day.
- Watch movies that make you happy.
- Reduce the time it takes to listen to the news and read the newspaper.
- Talk to people with positive ideas.
- Always stand or sit straight on your back. This helps to strengthen your self-confidence and inner strength.
- Walk, swim or do other sports every day. This can help you build a more positive attitude.
- Consider the desired results and scenarios, even if you are not happy. In turn, your positive psychology can affect your life and your surroundings.
It is not difficult to see that the impact of our lives is not only the atmosphere, the mindset the total switch of action and thought. The practice has proved that any successful person is not innate. The root cause of his of her success is the development of human infinite potential. As long as you hold a positive attitude to develop your potential, you will be able to use endless energy and your ability will be due to energy. The stronger the accumulation, the stronger it is. It is the mentality that determines your thinking, vision, career, and achievement. On the contrary, if a person has a negative attitude, do not develop their potential and only sigh the fate of injustice, then the more negative the more incompetent.
Whether a person can succeed depends mainly on his or her mentality. The difference between success and failure is that successful people always use the most positive thinking, the most optimistic spirit and the most brilliant experience to control their own lives, while the losers, on the contrary, are always guided by the failures and doubts of the past. In fact, our life is not perfect, but also not miserable. As long as we adjust our own mentality, our life will be happy.
To a large extent, the health of the mentality determines whether the health of the body, the excellence of the learning and the quality of the life. It can be said that if you want to change your situation, change your own destiny, then the first thing to change your mentality. As long as the mentality is right, your world will be bright.