Do you know your voice? From infancy, we use voices to express our needs, through childhood, adolescence, and then to adulthood, where our voices change and then grow our own tone. But do you know how to use the voice that stays with you all your life? Your voice hides so many unexpected secrets. What kind of person you are can be known through your voice.
Can Your Voice Reveal Your Personality?
“Voice is the mirror of the soul”, Zhenyu Zhou said, a sound training expert. The way and voice of a person’s speech reflect the personality traits and ideas of this person. So if you want to know a person, in addition to through the constellations and zodiac, voice is also a very direct medium.
In the book written by Zhenyu Zhou, it divides the voice into 9 prototypes: the innocent, the fool, the hero, the fierce man, the wise man, the ugly corner, the lover, the carer, the king. Each prototype has different voices and communication characteristics. Everyone contains these nine traits, but only one main type of energy. The other prototype will come out in different situations.
For example, the voice of the wise is rational, introverted and plain tone. There is no high sleet. Such a voice is suitable for advice, explanation, reason, questions. In the situation of answering tough questions or encountering a tricky situation, this kind of person can always respond rationally and analyze, and indirectly resolve the emotional dispute.
The other side of the wise is the ugly corner. Ugly corner is “the wise man wearing a mask”. Because the calm of mind is hidden. When this kind of person defends an idea, they have to stand up and fight. Their goal is very clear, so their voice also demonstrates the energy to think.
Synchronize your inner and other emotions in speaking
Once you understand the nature of the voice, the next step is to use it to communicate effectively. Speaking is not simply about saying what you want to express, but also conveying ideas.
Think about whether someone around you is particularly persuasive meaning you want to hear what they say as soon as they speak.
Zhou Zhenyu stressed that the most important thing to speak is synchronization, from the heart, meaning and tone should be consistent. If you think of A in mind, but say it in B, the power of sound will be divided.
The core of speech is to grasp the moment. The closer to the atmosphere, rhythm and feeling, the more real the voice and the more the power of words can be transmitted. And the sound is hard to disguise, especially if you are more sensitive to sound, and that “disguise” can be heard.
Synchronization is not only about yourself, but also about the state and emotions of others. If the other person is in low energy but you are in a high mood, then when you say to him “come on” will only make the other side embarrassed to say ” OK, I will cheer up. He’s actually worried about how you feel, and pretend to look like “cheer up”.
Zhenyu Zhou further explained: “Speaking is the flow of energy. You have to observe the other side’s words, the voice of the string and the sound of silence. You can even understand the other side’s state through breathing, and then use their state to establish a connection.” This is also why sometimes communication falls into the state of one side communication, precisely because we only want to convey our own ideas, but forget to understand each other.
Identify with each other and give the choice to them
Zhou Zhenyu believes that communication also has a very important key, which is to identify with each other.
If you say to the other person, “The question you just asked should be said like this…”, “It’s not like the question you’re going to ask”, “You can’t say that!”, these words can make people feel criticized, negative, and immediately close the door to dialogue.
If you change to say, “You’re right” and “You just asked a good question”, the distance of communication will be closer. But if the other person does not agree with you. You can try to find out what you agree with, and say, “I think the third sentence you just said is critical. I’ll also put my opinion on it. What do you think?” Then return him the choice and let him think.
Many times, we want the other person to accept your views, just as the direct selling company will use strong energy to tell you how good their products are in order for you to buy.
“But the first thing to persuade is to give the other side a full sense of security, ” Zhenyu Zhou said.
He added: “Persuading with the intention to control the other side is easy to create a defensive mind.” Only if the other person feels safe can you move on to the next step. Moreover, the tone cannot be struck, nor can it be like a political talk show, because these tones cannot let the other person relax.
If it is effective in an authoritative or powerful way, it is only effective once, and it does not help the future relationship. Therefore, when the other party relaxes and has a sense of security, and then talk about professionalism, a sense of trust can be generated and the other party’s heart will be loosened. “In the end, we still have to return the choice to the other person and let they say Yes or No ” Zhou warned.
Don’t pretend to communicate. Speak in a way that the other person understands.
Speaking is a flow of power, and sound will activate different energies. However, when communicating with supervisors, colleagues, or subordinates in the workplace, it is not difficult to find that “why the other party does not understand?”. That’s the feeling of powerlessness. The most common mistake in the middle is to “pretend to be objective, pretend to communicate, and misbehave communication as persuasion”.
You must have heard that at the end of the proposal, someone responded, “I think it’s a good proposal, but don’t you want to try this and that”… or “Do you have any other ideas besides these?” This means that the person concerned already has subjective ideas, but to pretend to objectively invite the other person to communicate. In addition, after making a suggestion, that person often adds the “Is it OK?” It becomes a kind of coercion, the person who is listening to this will actually feel not OK at all.
Another common workplace scenario is that the supervisor says: “I know everyone doesn’t like it, but the company says we have to do it.” When the supervisor uses power to pressure subordinates, even if everyone does that job, they are still reluctant. What’s the way it’s supposed to be? Zhenyu Zhou said: “With a peaceful breath, to show the power of the king in the world, in the end, use of the tone of wisdom person: calm, attentive and introverted to analysis the pros and cons of doing and not doing of this matter, and then put forward the implementation of the program. That is, the supervisor must be organized and calmly present facts and analysis. “The most important thing is not what you say, but what the other party understands. Speak to them in the way they understand.”
Zhenyu Zhou reminded that the most afraid of communication is, you think A in mind, but say it in B, the result of the other party hears it as C, and finally misunderstood into D, because when the content and voice contradictory, the other side received the possibility of another meaning.
When he suggests is that when you want to make an opinion, you can say, “I think the best idea is that… But I don’t agree with just one idea, I put forward my opinion, can you listen to it? Say what you agree and disagree, your heart and expression will be synchronized, and the person listening will be less defensive, so the door to communication will open.
Sound can help us to show ourselves and achieve good communication through conscious use. Zhenyu Zhou also presents a large number of dramatic characters in the book, helping us understand the characteristics of nine prototypes, compared to your own and other characteristics.
Because only by understanding your own voice, you know how to switch in time on different occasions, understand the voice of others, and talk in a way that the other person can accept.
Don’t forget to know what you want to say and how to express it in the way you want to express yourself before each opening, and to connect with each other. Because every communication and interaction is the time to improve relationship between each other.