What is optimistic
Some people have negative thinking habit in everything. They evaluate and measure from a negative point of view. They are harsh to others.
Also, because these people do not know how to praise and appreciate others, they only to pick and criticize other people’s problems, language criticism, they won’t feel happy. If we can learn more positive thinking with more “optimistic” angle to see things, we will have better moods and happier.
Optimism is a habit
The life of a person cannot always be smooth. Whether in work, school, family or own body, sometimes sudden accidents are very likely to knock you down. But develop and learn good habits of optimism can encounter that unsatisfactory moment.
After all, think about it another way or change your mind, and think about what the God is trying to do for you. I believe that God is fair. He will not let himself be wronged. It’s all relying on how optimistic of the adversity is seen and solved.
Optimism story
I remember I watched a news on a plane: the picture appeared in the news: A young man with an electric shock accidentally lost his arms and legs. He wanted to die. However, he still strong to survive in the encouragement of friends and relatives.
The young man in the picture had no arms and legs. He had learned to turn the faucet on with his mouth. But when he wants to read, he got no hands to turn the pages. His family made him a headband which worn on his forehead. There was a slender line on his headband that would help him turn over the book when he gently moved his head.
Later, the young man felt that it’s very meaningless for him to just stay at home. So he joined the ranks of medical volunteers. Other volunteers wheeled him into each ward and he chatted with the patients.
Every patient sees the young man with no arms and legs visited them with full of joy and smile. He encouraged them to live bravely. Everyone was greatly surprised and inspired, because compared to this young person, they feel that they had more happiness!
Source: sina
Why should you be optimistic
“You must not lose faith in humanity. Humanity is like an ocean; if a few drops of the ocean are dirty, the ocean does not become dirty.” ~ Mahatma Gandhi
Our ability to question our own existence may be our greatest gift of all. It enables us to decide our own fate as we search for our place in the universe.
So what if there’s no real reason for us to be here? We find our own reasons. We decide what our time here is worth and what we want from this life, and then we figure out a way to make it happen.
Now imagine that level of determination on a grand scale, one where all the minds of the human race are aligned and searching for the solution to whatever problems we face in this world. Imagine the strength behind such a will to survive and succeed.
We are afraid of failure. Those painful memories, often in the mind lingering, affecting every choice in the future. Therefore, the brain always thinks of the most miserable situation when things happen and then try to avoid. We will forget to operate in a positive perspective of life over time.
Only optimistic can see opportunities and brave to grasp the opportunities is the way to succeed.
1. Reduce negative energy
If you indulge in negative energy and always paranoid, you will inevitably hesitate, influence decision-making, and finally miss many good opportunities. Therefore, if you want to be happy, you must first curb the impact of negative energy.
The easiest way is to deliberately and frequently think of things that will make you happy. You can list 3 good things happen in your life every day, and their positive impact on life, as a motivation for you.
2. Force yourself to see the hope behind the difficulties
The brain can be trained. Even if you are accustomed to negative thinking, there is still a chance to learn to screen negative thoughts and see the opportunities behind the dilemma and hope. Pay attention to your thoughts.
When negative thinking starts, ask yourself,
Are you afraid that things are not going to work out?
Is it necessary to look at everything with a cynical eye?
What are the reasons I am worried?
What should I do to make these negative thoughts gone?
These help you find a solution that you didn’t see.
3. Treat others kindly and create a pleasant atmosphere
The relationship is two sides. If you treat good to other people. Other people will return treating good to you. Having a harmonious atmosphere each other and finally will have a positive impact to our own mood.
4. Bringing forward thinking into everyday life
This is a self questioning exercise that can be done right away, as long as it is practiced, it can help you develop the habit of thinking:
What will make me grateful now?
What do I do now and feel happy at once?
How can I express my love and gratitude now?
What can I do to make others feel surprised or happy at the moment?
5. Set a False Optimism Stage
If you are not born to be optimistic, then use this false optimism as a warm-up exercise to trigger real optimism.
Use a magnifying glass to find the optimistic side for everything happen in the past. Regardless of you can convince yourself you to be optimistic, you should find out something grateful in the past to make you optimistic.
6. Have the invincible optimism
Always be thankful for the past, and you will find yourself having an optimistic life. Optimistic is the solution to all the difficulties! Optimism attracts luck!
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Training optimistic attitude is in the mature and serious training to survive the pressure. Also, it’s a good psychological preparation work for failure.
Moreover, it’s important for parents to be optimistic as it will put these intangible influences to their children.
How to train to be Optimistic
livestrong.com provides 5 ways to train your brain to be optimistic which I most prefer.
1. Give Thanks
Thoughts of gratitude increase serotonin and decrease cortisol while also improving motivation and overall happiness. Start by writing down at least three things you’re grateful for each day.2. Pay It Forward
Acts of kindness boost the feel-good neurotransmitter dopamine. Even something as simple as giving someone a smile or a compliment can leave you both feeling a burst of happiness.3. Laugh Out Loud
Laughter really is the best medicine. Belly laughs induce serotonin production, calming the amygdala (the brain’s stress center).4. Mind Your Words
Catch yourself when you start to complain. This is challenging, especially if complaining is a common habit you’ve cultivated.5. Get Sweaty
Exercise elevates endorphins, serotonin and other pleasurable brain chemicals while simultaneously reducing cortisol.
Optimistic during hard time
Tough times require a mindset shift.
Joe Kakaty, co-founder and president of Poker Central
Being a cheerleader during thriving times is easy. But staying optimistic and finding small wins to celebrate during struggling periods is both vital and valuable.
Don’t pretend everything is fine. People are smart. They know when you’re not winning. In my business, we communicate strategy and team goals more than ever during tough times—holding a monthly company-wide meeting, for example. We celebrate small wins along the way and take ownership of mistakes. Finally, expect the old saying to be true: “Success has a thousand fathers, while failure is an orphan.”
Just trying to stay optimistic in these difficult times
Turn Pessimistic into Optimistic
Many pessimistic people are often bound by their own thought. They think naturally in that direction. Sometimes, perhaps their mind is resistance, but it is very difficult to get rid of, especially due to the environmental impact.
You can think about how bad the results are.
Is it worth for us to be this kind of extremely pessimistic to treat this results?
We will find that it often because we care the previous results too much. When you look at something that you haven’t finished yet and make effort on them, you will see the previous results were gone and you have more important thing to do. That permissistic feeling is actually does not affect us too much.
Source: https://www.zhihu.com/question/25708228
It doesn’t matter you are Optimistic and Depressed at the Same Time.
A woman with depression explains what it’s like to be happy and optimistic at the same time.
Being a happy, optimistic person with depression is a strange combination. When there is talk of someone struggling with depression, most people assume they’re miserable. They can’t laugh, they can’t smile, they can’t enjoy themselves, they don’t feel happiness.
Depression can be enveloping, it can take over your life and dictate your mood. It can make you think irrationally and feel unreasonably and make you feel completely and utterly alone in the world. But it’s possible to be a happy person with depression.
